"Thoughts held in mind Produce after their Kind."
Therefore, dwelling on What you "don't want" is Self-destructive behavior at Best;-).

My Past "good, bad, or ugly" is the Wind beneath my Wings. I have to 1. Accept what happened 2. Bury it and 3. Get out the Blame Game;-).

Have Patience n a Plan Always Plan your Work n Work your Plan because a Plan works if U Work it.
It's a Process and Time is the key Factor.