Self-Confidence and the Choice to Engage in Positive Conversations

You can identify a self-confident person by their body language and conversation. These people more than likely are positive people. They have positive thoughts and have positive things to say. The next time you have a conversation with some one, (it can be a total stranger) listen to what they say and how they say it. If, you talk to them long enough you will be able to determine their self-confidence level by their conversation and body language. If you talk with someone and all their conversation is about someone else’s misfortune, or gossiping, usually there is something going on with that person. In some cases, they are hurting (emotionally) and hurting people tend to hurt others. It makes them feel better about themselves to talk about what they heard about someone else’s affairs. Rather than talking about themselves and how they are making their positive “mark” on society, they would prefer to continue spreading second-hand information (gossip). These are the type of people you want to get far away from with a quickness. Pray for them (under your breath), and keep it moving.

What is a conversation? According to Wikipedia the free encyclopedia, it defines conversation as “communication between multiple people. It is a social skill that is not difficult for most individual. Conversations are ideal form of communication in some respects, since they allow people with different views on a topic to learn from each other.” What I interpret the definition to mean is that conversation is a dialogue between two or more people and they are exchanging information. If you are engaged in an exchange of information, with someone and it digresses down a negative path you have the ability to immediately stop the exchange.

If you stop a negative conversation particular when it is about someone who is not around to defend themselves then that is an indicator that you are a self-confident person. You can chose not to feed into the other person’s emotional pain by destroying someone’s reputation with malicious gossip. Dale Carnegie said it best when he stated, “When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic but creatures of emotions.” Your goal should be to bring them up to your level by not continuing the conversation and telling them you do not participate in idle gossip. It makes me think of an old adage that states, “Garbage in garbage out” if you fill your mind with garbage (negative conversation) you will find yourself making negative statements.

If you are a person who generally have positive conversations and usually do not speak negative about others, then please do not allow the influence of others take you out of your character. This may mean immediately changing the conversation at the first sign of it going in a negative direction. You can stop the person and let them know you do not want to talk about that person since they are not there to defend them self. Another option is to simply walk away from the person and the conversation.

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